
When a woman is breastfeeding, she might develop some sexual difficulties, which may be related to hormonal factors, physical discomfort, fatigue, psychological factors or a combination of all the above.
Usually, such issues are temporary and can be addressed.

Some of the sexual issues breastfeeding women may face include the following:
- Vaginal dryness. While a woman is breastfeeding, her estrogen levels decrease. Because estrogen is vital for keeping vaginal tissue moist and healthy, many breastfeeding women experience vaginal dryness, which makes sex uncomfortable.
- Low sex drive. High prolactin levels and declines in estrogen and testosterone can diminish a woman’s libido. She might not be as interested in sex as she was before having a baby. Other factors, such as poor sleep, fatigue, anxiety, and the stress of caring for a newborn can also affect sex drive.

- Breast and nipple pain, leaking of breast milk. There are many reasons a woman’s breasts may be tender and sore while breastfeeding. The baby might not be latching well during feeding. The woman may have too much milk building up in her breasts. Her milk ducts may become clogged. She may develop nipple blisters, blebs (a type of cyst), or thrush (a fungal infection). Mastitis, an infection of breast tissue, can also occur. In addition, some women feel anxious about leaking breast milk during sex.
- Fatigue. Because a baby eats every few hours, it can be difficult for breastfeeding mothers to get enough rest. Some find that they are just too tired for sex.

What can you do about sexual issues while you’re breastfeeding? Here are some suggestions:
- Give it time. Hormonal levels should return to normal in time, especially once a baby starts nursing less. When prolactin decreases and estrogen and testosterone levels increase, sex drive and vaginal lubrication should be restored. Experts recommend that couples take it slow when resuming intimacy. Reducing pressure to perform can help women relax and let go.
- Communicate. Be open with your partner about what you’re feeling and what you need.
- Try a lubricant. An over-the-counter water-based lubricant can make sex more comfortable. Silicone-based lubricants are also an option.
- Have non-penetrative sex. Focus on caresses and sexual practices that give you pleasure without creating discomfort.
- Wear a nursing bra during sex. The extra cushion of a nursing bra may relieve some breast and nipple discomfort. A bra can also absorb any milk leakage.
- Try to rest. This may be easier said than done, but consider asking your partner, family, and friends to help with errands and household chores so you can catch up on your sleep.
- Consider using a contraceptive method! Even if your menstrual cycle is not regular yet, you still can get pregnant.
- Call your doctor. Your doctor might make other suggestions for your personal situation.

To learn more about sexual issues for women after childbirth, please see these links:
What are some common sexual problems for women after childbirth?
How might a woman’s genitals change after vaginal childbirth?
Does method of childbirth affect sexual function later?
How might breastfeeding affect a woman’s sex life?
How do depression and anxiety during pregnancy and the postpartum period affect a woman’s sex life?
Women are also encouraged to discuss any concerns with their healthcare provider.
Resources
American Family Physician
Westerfield, Katie L., DO, et al.
“Breastfeeding: Common Questions and Answers”
(Full-text. September 15, 2018)
https://www.aafp.org/afp/2018/0915/p368.html
Healthline.com
Morris, Susan York and Catherine Crider
“Postpartum Vaginal Dryness”
(April 16, 2020)
https://www.healthline.com/health/postpartum-vaginal-dryness
Parents.com
Perry, Christin
“What to Expect With Postpartum Hormone Changes”
(February 25, 2020)
https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-body/postpartum/postpartum-hormone-changes/
Romper.com
Hosseini, Sarah
“Why Does Breastfeeding Make Sex Hurt? Blame It On The Hormones”
(May 27, 2017)
https://www.romper.com/p/why-does-breastfeeding-make-sex-hurt-blame-it-on-the-hormones-59909
TheBump.com
Pevzner, Holly
“8 Ways Breastfeeding Can Affect Your Sex Life and What to Do About It”
(March 2019)
https://www.thebump.com/a/breastfeeding-interfering-with-sex-life
Sexual Medicine Society of North America
“Women’s Sexual Health After Childbirth”
https://www.sexhealthmatters.org/did-you-know/womens-sexual-health-after-childbirth