Sexual problems – such as loss of desire, erectile dysfunction, sexual pain, and trouble reaching orgasm – can occur in people with epilepsy for several reasons. (Learn more: How might epilepsy affect sexual function?) However, many people with epilepsy have satisfying sexual relationships.
If you have epilepsy, here are some steps you can take:
- Learn more about epilepsy. Ask your healthcare professional for resources you can read, watch, or listen to. You might also consider joining a support group, either in person or online, where people share their experiences and strategies for managing epilepsy. If you have a partner, they might explore these resources as well.
- Talk to your healthcare professional. If you think you’re having sexual issues related to epilepsy, ask your provider about treatments. For example, if you’re taking an epilepsy medication that has sexual side effects, you might be able to adjust your dose or switch to a different drug. (Changes like these should always be done with a provider’s guidance.)
It’s also possible that a sexual issue might not be directly related to epilepsy. If this is the case, a complete medical exam can help pinpoint the cause of the problem and start you on an appropriate treatment.
- Follow your treatment plan. Keeping your epilepsy well-managed may lower your risk for seizures. Follow your healthcare professional’s advice exactly, and take your medications as prescribed. If you are unsure about any of the instructions, feel free to ask questions.
- Talk to your partner. Both you and your partner may have reservations about sexual activity. You might worry that having sex will trigger a seizure. Make sure you both understand the situation. Your partner should also know what to do if a seizure does occur – during sex or at any other time.
- Consider counseling or sex therapy. It’s hard to relax and enjoy intimacy when you’re feeling anxious. And coping with sexual problems can challenge relationships. If you think you might need some extra help with a sexual issue or your relationship, think about seeing a counselor or sex therapist. Your healthcare provider can make a referral.
- Manage your stress. Having epilepsy can be stressful, and it’s important to keep that stress under control. Be sure to make time for you, and find ways to relax. That might mean deep breathing exercises, taking part in a hobby, or spending more time with family or friends.
- Practice self-care. Eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep can benefit your physical and emotional well-being. And they help your sexual well-being, too!
Resources
Epilepsy Newfoundland and Labrador
“Sexuality and Epilepsy”
https://epilepsynl.com/sex-and-epilepsy/
Epilepsy Society
“Relationships and sex”
(Information produced: January 2019)
https://epilepsysociety.org.uk/living-epilepsy/wellbeing/relationships-and-sex
EverydayHealth.com
“Epilepsy and Your Sex Life”
(Last updated: April 18, 2012)
https://www.everydayhealth.com/epilepsy/epilepsy-sex-life.aspx
International Society for Sexual Medicine
“How might epilepsy affect sexual function?”
https://www.issm.info/sexual-health-qa/how-might-epilepsy-affect-sexual-relationships/
“What can be done to help people with epilepsy who want to have sex?”